Due to a recent chat with my lifelong best-friend who had to kick my bad habits gone bonkers ass about men back into gear, it made me not only to question why I do such idiotic things to gain the attention or love for the moment from the same types of guys to can there be so many stupid men out there & why do I keep attracting them? This is not to bash men, but to help open both sexes eyes by using my own experiences.

I’ve lost count of how many times guys have told me their sob story about the woman they are with and the crazy things she does, which makes it sound like most of them should be in jail. If a guy is so easily manipulated and chooses to stay with such a bad person, that’s your choice that you have to live with, however I would NEVER put up with that kind of crap. And if you feel like you can’t get out, sometimes due to finances, that’s also a choice, I would rather lose everything and start over, working two jobs if needed, which I have done, than to stay in a miserable relationship, No Way. For some it may be that the unknown is too scary and the misery is routine and comfortable…SERIOUSLY? Wouldn’t you prefer to be happy and to find a good woman who treats you right?

There are guys who can’t get stuck out of their poor me mindset from either women majorly messing up their heads with lying and cheating or from traumatic events in their childhood or a chosen profession. That’s when you need to seek therapy and be able to let all of the shit go, giving you the opportunity to have a fulfilling life without carrying that burden anymore.

It’s one thing to share your past relationships with someone new when getting to know each other, but only do so once, when you constantly talk about an ex every time you’re with the new person, it just shows that the ex is the only one on your mind and that you are definitely not ready to move on and quite frankly it pisses us off.

If you choose someone else because they are more convenient but boring when you really want to be with someone else who makes your blood pump with excitement just by thinking about them but you live miles apart and don’t think it could work because of the distance, so you don’t try, even though the other person would do everything they could to be with you. That’s a bad choice you’ll regret. If you really wanted to be with someone, then nothing would stop you.

There’s been several who have said that I was everything they were looking for, but yet, for whatever reason, they didn’t choose me, perhaps by putting me too high up on a pedestal that they couldn’t reach me. I don’t need a man financially and I suppose that is what most of them think that’s what women want. No, a good woman like me wants someone who is supportive, dependable, protective, secure with himself, takes care of his responsibilities, kind, has a great sense of humor, accepts me for who I am & doesn’t try to change me, loves animals, respectful, trustworthy, rockin my world in bed is a major plus and not to mention real love. But isn’t that what everyone wants? Just don’t know why it’s so hard to find.

Don’t even get me started on all of the users for it would expose some of my secrets, but sometimes it can be a matter of who is using who for what? Friends with benefits and casual sex may sound great in the moment, especially when you’re about to explode, but afterward, you’re left feeling empty, wishing a certain person was there all of the time instead for only an occasional hour or night. They may give you a temporary high, but when that ends, you’re hit with a major low and other circumstances can make it worse. And then there are the ones you can’t wait to leave because they stay too long and make you crazy.

I’ve dealt with all of the above too many times, blaming myself for why I can’t make things work, wondering what is wrong with me, putting myself through hell loving someone who can’t love me in return. There are many single awesome women out there wanting to find a good man but it is so hard for us when your all stuck in the aforementioned scenarios. So, men grow some damn balls, stop the whining, choose the awesome woman for she will change your life. And to those awesome women out there, don’t settle for less, it’s better to be alone than put up with some stupid guy’s bullshit, wait for a good guy that will treat you like a Queen.

Written 4/26/20